Stop talking and let the other person drain their fishbowl.
Next time you don’t agree with someone else… Don’t speak. Don’t respond. Don’t tell them why you disagree.
Instead, listen. Ask questions. Encourage them to keep talking.
Imagine their head is a fishbowl. No fish, but a glass bowl full of water. Let them completely drain their fishbowl before you respond.
You see, when you respond it’s like you’re pouring water into their fishbowl. If you respond too quickly then the bowl will overflow.
You can add more water once they’ve drained their fishbowl. You can explain why you don’t agree. You can state what success looks like for you. And you can work together to find a win-win solution.
